To let go of our possessions is a very extreme action. Either we can’t wait to get that avocado green lamp with the crooked shade out of our existence forever, or we can’t bear to see it go. Rarely are we indifferent about letting go. Even when we have a goal of decluttering, living more simply or completely downsizing; even when we truly want to get rid of something, making that final decision can be an emotional combat.
As Professional Organizers, there are some common reasons we often hear regarding why we don’t let go of our possessions. Breaking down these defenses can help you make peace with parting from the things you don’t need. No longer will you have that sense of regret or “what if” feeling, as you reluctantly drive away from the donation center, upon unloading a trunk full of things like outdated lamps, clothes that don’t fit and unused toys or sporting goods.
What If
Speaking of that “What if” feeling, that’s one of the most common reasons we hold onto things. What if I need these 7 extra salad bowls? What if I lose 10 pounds and fit into those jeans again? What if I lose the memory invoked every time I walk past the avocado lamp?
Making peace with the “What ifs” is probably the most difficult aspect of letting go for many people. It means surrendering to the unknown. It means facing our fears of losing something as precious as memories. But, maybe the more important question to ask is “What if I don’t need those bowls…or lose the weight…or forget the memory?” And, if that’s the case, then the stuff we hold onto for “What if” reasons, simply becomes clutter.
I Paid a Lot for That
I don’t think there’s a single person who has possessions, who hasn’t used this excuse. This brings up the concept of the value we place on our material items. Are you unable to let go of those leather boots (that you don’t really like and REALLY hurt your feet) because of their hefty price tag, or because they actually bring joy to your life? I think you know the answer. That doesn’t mean it’s not somewhat defeating to part with something expensive, but it’s a good exercise to practice. It will make you think harder and smarter about the things you bring into your life, before they become impulse purchases, shrouded with regret.
It’s Still Functional
Not wanting to let go of something because it still works, doesn’t mean it still works for you. Always ask yourself if the item is purposeful in your life. Does it bring you joy? When was the last time you actually used it? Having something that’s still in good shape, but serves no purpose in your life can actually be a good thing! These are the best things to donate or sell. You can feel good about your decision to part with the item if you’re helping others. Remember, if we held onto everything for this reason, our homes would be filled with baby furniture, clothes that don’t fit, boots that hurt, appliances we don’t use, decorations we don’t like, stuff we don’t need!
The moral of the story is this: If it doesn’t add value to your life by bringing you joy, let it go! If it’s ugly and outdated, (however expensive and functional it may be), let it go! If the clutter of keeping it causes you more stress than getting rid of it would, let it go. Live in space you love!
